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Then we have performance orientation and drivenness, and certain variances of OCD,. where a person is basing their identity and who they are on how well they perform at something in life. Whenever we base who we are on our performance, or our being correct about something and then we fail at that thing, it is a blow to our identity.

 

Those who struggle with rejection can also become what we call fixers; a fixer is a person who is eager to tell everybody else how they need to be doing things, but many times have little understanding or experience in that thing. They attempt to be the Holy Spirit in other people's lives, where they have no authority or right to step in. They find their identity in fixing other people's problems, and they love it when people come to them for help or advice.

 

The truth is that when God created Adam HE placed a desire inside of him to be loved, accepted, and appreciated. And that desire was that Adam would want love, acceptance and appreciation only from God. But when sin came in, we rejected God and His ways and the door was open to the defeated one. So, now we look for love, acceptance and appreciation from everyone but GOD.  And that's when trouble begins!

 

So, Rejection is an anti-christ spirit because it goes against the very nature that God created in us. It starves a person from love and acceptance that they were designed to receive from God. And when we turn to others or even ourselves for that love and acceptance, we are setting ourselves up for failure and the damage of rejection. Only God can be trusted as the source of our identity.

 

Self-rejection is another piece to the puzzle. Self-rejection is where a person rejects them self. They don’t like who they are. This can often lead to self-hate, self-resentment, and self-loathing. It’s often tied to unforgiveness for yourself because you made mistakes in your life that you deeply regret.

 

Just as it hurts when others reject us, it can do just as much damage when we reject ourselves.

 

A LOT OF REJECTION IS PERCEIVED REJECTION.    

This is where a person receives something as rejection when it really isn't. For example, you might say "Why is that person not coming over here to talk to me?" When the person may not be trying to reject you at all  they are just too shy to step out and meet you (or anybody else for that matter).

 

A person who feels like God is always angry at them usually has issues of rejection. Perceived rejection can also make a person feel as if God has rejected them.

 

A good example of rejection, which caused feelings of envy, jealousy, and even hate to surface in King Saul can be found in 1 Samuel 18:7-11 

And the women answered one another as they played, and said, Saul hath slain his thousands, and David his ten thousands. And Saul was very wroth, and the saying displeased him; and he said, They have ascribed unto David ten thousands, and to me they have ascribed but thousands: and what can he have more but the kingdom? And Saul eyed [literally meaning that he looked with jealousy upon] David from that day and forward. And it came to pass on the morrow [the next day], that the evil spirit from God came upon Saul, and he prophesied in the midst of the house: and David played with his hand, as at other times: and there was a javelin in Saul's hand. And Saul cast the javelin; for he said, I will smite David even to the wall with it. And David avoided out of his presence twice.
 

First, we see the women praising David for slaying his ten thousands, but Saul for slaying his thousands. That rejection made Saul angry with David, and jealous of him. The very next day, an evil spirit came upon Saul and caused him to become exceedingly angry, to the point of attempting to murder David! So murder was the fruit that started with rejection. It wasn't rejection that opened Saul up to the evil spirit, but rather his reaction to his rejection. The same is true when a person becomes stubborn or rebellious, or any other ungodly reaction to rejection. The rejection isn't the sin, but their reaction can be.

 

The root of rejection is actually very simple: The damage from rejection is the result of a misplaced identity.

 

WE DON’T KNOW WHO WE ARE!!!!!!

 

Whenever we base our identity on somebody or something other than what God's Word has to say about us, we make ourselves vulnerable to the damage of rejection.

 

Many of us will base our identity on what our parents, teachers, or friends think of us. This sets us up for Performance Orientation bondages. Because if we don’t perform, act or behave like our parents, teachers or friends want us to we feel rejected by them because they didn’t approve of us or what we did.   That’s conditional love and we were not made to receive conditional love.  We were designed by God to receive HIS UNCONDITIONAL love. 

 

But remember what happened……SIN came in.

 

AND IF WE BASE OUR IDENTITY ON WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT US…….THEY’LL CHANGE THEIR MIND TOMORROW AND THEN WHAT????

BUT GOD NEVER CHANGES HIS MIND ABOUT US.  HE LOVES US NO MATTER HOW WE BEHAVE, OR HOW WE ACT.   HE ACCEPTS US FOR WHO WE ARE. HE’S THE SAME TODAY, YESTERDAY AND FOREVER

 

Anytime we base our identity on what we think of ourselves, or what others think of us, we are virtually trusting that person with our identity. AND ONLY GOD IS QUALIFIED FOR THAT JOB.  

 

SO, OUR IDENTITY IS NOT BASED ON OUR JOB, OR what your parents thought or think of you OR  what your friends think of you OR How much money you have OR what you think of yourself.

 

IF WE WANT TO WALK IN FREEDOM AND OVERCOME REJECTION THE KEY IS TO RESOLVE THE IDENTITY PROBLEM. 

 

SO WE MUST absolutely understand the person that God has made in us, and who we are as new creations in Christ Jesus. We were never made to live apart from God or base our identity on things of this world. When we base our identity on what the Word of God has to say about us, we will become virtually rejection-proof. We can become immune from the wounds of rejection as long as we are not basing our identity on what that person thinks of us or says to us.

 

Let’s look at some dynamics of rejection

  • The closer a person is to you, the deeper their rejection can wound you. Authority figures are also able to deeply wound you, because you look up to them and rely on them.

 

  • PARENTS WHO SHOW Conditional love causes feelings of rejection and bondage and later in life it causes us to behave ways we would have never behaved.

 

Whether you love or hate a person doesn't immune anybody from rejection. You can literally want to kill somebody, but still be affected by their rejection. The question is, are you looking to them for approval? Are you basing your identity on what they think of you? Does their approval of you give your life meaning and purpose?

 

A person's age also has a lot to do with their vulnerability to rejection. Children are especially vulnerable to the damage of rejection, because they are still developing their identity and learning about who they are. PARENTS…….IT’S VITAL THAT YOU TEACH YOUR CHILDREN WHO THEY ARE IN GOD SO THEY DON’T GROW UP WITH DEEP REJECTION ISSUES.  TEACH THEM  IT ONLY MATTERS WHAT GOD THINKS ABOUT THEM AND THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS MIGHT BE IMPORTANT BUT THEY DON’T DEFINE WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ACT. IF YOU INSTILL THAT IN YOUR CHILDREN THEY WON’T JOIN GANGS AND BE A FOLLOWER..  THEY WILL BE LEADERS AND LEAD OTHER CHILDREN THE RIGHT WAY. 

BECAUSE IF YOU DON’T INSTILL IT IN THEM THEN DAMAGE WILL BE DONE TO THEM BY THEIR PEERS IN SCHOOL. 

 

WE HAVE TO BASE OR IDENTITY ON RIGHT THINGS, WHICH IS WHAT GOD SAYS ABOUT US AND NOT WRONG THINGS WHICH ARE WHAT OTHERS SAY ABOUT US. NO ONE IS IMMUNE TO REJECTION.  

 

So where are we suppose to get our identity from? Get your identity from God's Word!

 

As I mentioned earlier, it’s vital that we base our identity, and who we are, on what God's Word says about us. When we do, we become virtually immune from the devastating and hurtful effects of rejection. In Hebrews 13:5 God promises never to leave or forsake us, so when our identity is based on what He says about us, we can be assured that we're not going to face rejection coming from Him.

 

So what exactly does God's Word tell us about who we are in Christ?

 

  • ​Because of God's great love for us, we are adopted into His family [1 John 3:1], and made joint heirs with Christ [Romans 8:17]

  • We are made to sit in heavenly places (of authority over all demons, sickness, etc.) with Christ [Ephesians 2:6]

  • We are blessed with all spiritual blessings in Christ [Ephesians 1:3]

  • We are the righteousness of Christ through faith, thus being made right before God [Romans 3:22]

  • We are entitled to a clean conscience before God because of the Blood and can have full assurance of faith when we go before Him [Hebrews 10:22]

  • Our sins have been removed from us as far as the east is from the west [Psalms 103:12], and God Himself has chosen not to remember our failures [Hebrews 8:12]

  • We are loved with the same love that the Father has for Jesus Himself! [John 17:23]

 

There's one verse in Psalms that really puts the light on how we can be freed from the devastating effects of rejection:

 

Psalm 27:10 When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.

 

Overcoming religious strongholds is necessary to overcome the effects of rejection. We’re not going to settle rejection issues fully until we get it down into our spirit that you are accepted, loved, and appreciated by God.

 

To Tear down the strongholds of rejection we must receive, with childlike faith, what God's Word has to say about our identity, who you are as a new creature in Christ, and what our purpose is.

 

WE MUST CORRECT OUR IDENTITY…..YOU MUST START SEEING YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU ARE IN CHRIST AND THE PERSON GOD HAS FORMED WITHIN YOU.

 

Your identity must come from Him and what His Word says about you.

 

WHEN WE FEEL THE HURT AND PAIN FROM REJECTION IT’S BECAUSE OUR IDENTITY DEPENDS ON WHAT THAT PERSON THINKS OF US. IF OUR IDENTITY DIDN’T DEPEND ON WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT US WE WOULD BE VIRTUALLY IMMUNE FROM THE DAMAGE OF REJECTION.    

 

That’s why our identity must be based on the Word of God, and what God has to say about us because that will never change.   THE BIBLE SAYS THAT JESUS IS the unshakable rock  which we need to build our house on.

 

IF THE WOUNDS OF REJECTION WERE THE ONLY THING WE HAD TO WORRY ABOUT IT WOULD BE ONE THING………BUT THOSE WOUNDS OPEN US UP TO SO MANY OTHER SPIRITS……ABANDONMENT, WORTHLESSNESS, EVEN PORNOGRAPHY AND LUST COME IN BECAUSE OF THE LACK OF LOVE AS A CHILD

 

 "How is your heart towards that person who's rejected you? Do you love them as GOD has commanded you?"

 

Forgiving the person or persons who have rejected you is a vital step in being delivered from a spirit of rejection. UNTIL WE GO BACK TO WHERE THE REJECTION FIRST CAME IN AND DEAL WITH THAT UNFORGIVENESS AND PAIN…..WE CAN’T MOVE FORWARD AND LIVE A LIFE FREE FROM REJECTION. 

 

If we want God's help in this healing process, then forgiveness is not an option. Sometimes we even have to RELEASE UNFORGIVENESS TOWARDS GOD  because we BLAME HIM FOR THE WAY WE LOOK… WE SAY THINGS LIKE “WHY DID God give me this big nose? Or this short body?"     

We even struggle with unforgiveness against God because we thought He was just too hard to please, because of how we were trained to think about God.  

 

IF YOU STRUGGLE WITH REJECTION I BELIEVE WHAT GOD HAS SPOKEN TO US TODAY WILL SET YOU FREE.   

SO, WE HAVE TO FIRST….

 

  • Forgive the person who first rejected you

  • Forgive God

  • Get deliverance from a spirit of Rejection

  • Begin to learn who you are in God through the WORD…..Develop a STRONG SPIRIT

  • Begin the healing process in your emotions and mind

  • And begin to identify when rejection comes and send the Word of God against it

HOW TO OVERCOME REJECTION

By Correcting a Mistaken Identity

 

Rejection is such a big cause of demonic bondage in our lives and it's one of the most common things we see in deliverance and it must be addressed so we can be set free. 

 

It seems that almost everybody is affected by rejection to some degree. So It's vital to understand how it works, and how to apply the cure.

 

YES THERE IS A CURE FOR REJECTION.   YOU DON’T HAVE TO LIVE WITH IT THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.  JESUS CAME THAT WE WOULD BE FREE AND HAVE ABUNDANT LIFE. SO WE’RE GOING TO GET TO THE BOTTOM OF THIS SPIRIT OF REJECTION AND OVERCOME IT IN JESUS NAME.

 

THE FIRST THING WE NEED TO FIND OUT IS WHY REJECTION WOUNDS US SO DEEPLY.

 

  • It attacks the very person that we are. It destroys our self-esteem, and attacks who we are and our purpose in life.

 

That’s why THE DEFEATED ONE USES IT TO TRY AND DESTROY A PERSON’S LIFE. 

 

NOTICE I SAID HE TRYS TO DESTROY OUR LIFE. BUT NOW GOD IS REVEALING TO US THE ANSWERS SO WE DON’T HAVE TO ALLOW REJECTION TO DRIVE OUR LIFE. 

 

God never wanted us to feel rejected or abandoned. 

 

His desire is for you to know who you really are, and realize how deeply He loves, accepts, and appreciates you, so that you can live out the fullness of all God has ordained you to be.

 

God's Word tells us that without being rooted and grounded in the love (and acceptance) of God, we cannot experience the fullness of God in our lives: Ephesians 3:19 tells us…..   May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.

 

Rejection has a way of destroying a person's life  that few other things can and there are a staggering number of people who are affected by rejection. So we don’t have to feel we’re the only one. If we want to be all that God has created us to be, then overcoming rejection and it's affects is vital and absolutely essential.

 

Those who faced rejection and abuse as a child grow up with unresolved emotional wounds. If we aren’t cleansed from these emotional wounds they will fester into spiritual wounds such as unforgiveness, envy, blaming God and jealousy. The spiritual wounds open doors to demonic spirits which love to take advantage of the opportunity to come in. The goal of the enemy is to get us built up with emotional baggage inside and negative feelings in our hearts against one another, ourselves, and God.

 

Let’s look at some common symptoms of rejection so we can see how they affect our life 

  • ​Rebellion in both children and adults

  • Fabricated personalities (being somebody you aren't, in order to be accepted

  • The tendency to reject others, so that you aren't the first one to be rejected

  • A tendency to always wonder if a person rejects or accepts you

  • The need to fit in or be accepted by others and be a part of everything

  • Self-pity where a person feels bad for themselves being all alone

  • Inability to be corrected or receive constructive criticis

  • Rejection creates an environment where you are starved for love or just don't fit in

  • A tendency to blame God ("Why did He give me this big nose? Why did God make me so short?)

  • A sense of pride that says, "How dare they reject me"

  • Opinionated personality and the need to be right about everything

  • Feelings of worthlessness, insecurity, or hopelessnes

  • Seeking a parent's approval is a sign that you are basing your identity upon what they think of you

  • Envy, jealousy, and even hate can be rooted in rejection

  • Fear of confrontation (because your identity is based on what people think of you)

 

A person who has a hard time admitting they are wrong, or receiving constructive criticism has an underlying problem with rejection.

How do we know that? Because they are basing their identity, and who they are, on their ability to be right about everything.

 

Stubbornness can also be rooted in rejection as well for the same reason. They have to be right, or else they feel worthless... that's because "who they are" (their identity) is based on them being right. It also ties into opinionated personalities, who are always there to tell you all about something, even if they have little or no real understanding of that particular thing.

 

 

WE’RE TALKING ABOUT SYMPTOMS OF REJECTION……….. anyone seeing any of these working in your life????

 

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